all you need is love...

In the documentary, Derrida discusses the importance of love and the impact it has on our lives. He questions why people love others and proposes that there is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. Are we more attracted to the qualities and personality traits that a person posses, are we more attracted to their physical attributes, or is it a mixture of both?

Throughout the film I gathered that Derrida had some specific thoughts on the topic of love in general. He brings up the point that love can be narcissicistic; if its true that we love another person in a romantic way for the qualities that define them, then perhaps we are living proof that love is narcissicistic. He notes that perhaps the reason why we are attracted to such personality traits it due to the fact that we share similar traits with that person; we are attracted to familiarity.

Perhaps it an also be argued that by loving another, we are fulfilling our own desires and needs. Depending on each of our personalities, we can either be easily satisfied by both love and materialistic things or we can chave a very high standard in regards to love and materialism.

I would have to agree with Derrida; I feel that often times love can be taken too lightly. Are we simply fulfilling the desire to have some sort or romance in our lives, to fill a void that has be present for too long, or are we really in love? Are we being superficial or genuine? If Derrida's statements that we base love on the qualities that define us and our significant other is true, what can be said for the people who change who they are over the span of years because they didn't like who they were or the personality traits that they may have posessed? Does that mean that there is more than one soul mate for each of us? I suppose we can all just take it day by day and view the matter of love as yet anothing quality of life that can define us as well.

Adios!